What is Spooning?
Human touch is important for us both physically and mentally. Cuddling is one of the ways humans express and experience touch.
Spooning is a form of cuddling where two people lie facing the same direction, and one person's back presses against the other person's torso and chest. The position looks similar to the spoons stacked together in your utensil drawer.
How Does Spooning Work?
Spooning involves two or more people snuggling against each other but facing the same way. One person’s back is pressed against the other’s front.
Arm and leg positions can be anywhere they are comfortable. Some people wrap their arms around their partner. The legs may be stacked or intertwined.
Why People Like Spooning
Spooning came about for a reason. Our caveman ancestors slept naked, and having a partner in bed was a way to keep warm and offer protection against predators. Some research shows that hugging may release oxytocin — the “feel good” hormone — into your body.
That can reduce stress, ease pain, and even bolster your immune system — the body’s defense against germs. Spooning also helps you create positive bonds with the people you love.
What's the Difference Between Spooning and Cuddling?
Spooning and cuddling both describe types of physical touch. You can cuddle and not spoon, but spooning is a specific cuddling type.
Spooning can be platonic, but it can also be used before, during, or after sex. Couples may use it as foreplay before sex, or spoon after sexual activity. Mutual masturbation, vaginal intercourse, or anal intercourse are also possible in this position.
Myths About Spooning
Myth: If you’re taller, you can’t be the “big spoon.” There aren’t any specific rules about size when it comes to spooning. The taller person can be the little spoon and vice versa. How you choose to spoon typically depends on the person and your relationship.
Myth: Spooning leads to sex. Some believe spooning can’t be platonic. People who are friends may cuddle, and that may lead to sex. Only you and the person you’re cuddling can decide what spooning means.